Many months ago, I decided that unless I take an active part in placing myself out there... chances of me meeting and dating a guy is very slim. It was almost a 0% chance because my job involves mostly students and if there are any men, they are married or attached.

The other issue I had was time, I didn't have the time to attend dating event etc, so I opted for the next best thing: Dating apps.

I made it clear on my profile that I wasn't looking for hookups, and that's was how I met my guy. We chatted for awhile before I gave him my number and met him in person.

After many more dates later~ he asked me to be his girlfriend and that's was how we started being a couple.

That's the Happily Ever version of my dating app experience, but the reality of the whole experience is that, like many ladies out there, there were more sleazy guys than the decent ones. Dating apps make it easy for men and women (let's not be sexist) to find hookups. I chanced upon 2 men who started conversation about sex immediately and on another occasion... went out on a date where the guy was too touchy for my liking. 

I also had girlfriends telling me that they were chatting with guys who they thought were single, only to find them attached or worse... Married. 

So, it makes me a little excited to share with my girlfriends and ladies reading this, Singapore's first female-centric dating app, Lunchclick! This dating app is also accredited by Social Development Network (SDN).

Here's how Lunchclick aims to increase security for ladies:

1) Ensures that all users in database are genuine singles who are there for the right reasons

• NIRC is required for sign ups to ensure there are no married individuals on the app
• Checking of the authenticity of facebook profiles and  relationship status to prevent people with fake profiles or attached status from being on the app

2) A match per day

• The creation of allowing only 1 match per day  deters "players" so this won't appeal to people who just want to play "the numbers game"

Besides these security functions, Lunchclick also has some features that are very useful especially if you are a shy individual or if you are unfamiliar with the use of dating apps. 

Here's how Lunchclick app helps to defuse the awkward/silent moments and to resolve any confusion or dissatisfaction with the match:

1) Hundreds of engaging questions

• Lunchclick's "Q&A" style of interaction includes topics such as values, opinions, interests and aspirations. This allows you to get to know your match better, rather than wasting time on small chat that usually comes across as awkward, boring or ineffective.

2) Designed to encourage dates

• With the "Propose a Date" option, it helps to make suggesting a date easier and less awkward. Simply pick a location and suggest a date & time  to meet.

3) In-app Real Human Love Assistant

• Need advice, dating tips or unsure how the app works? Feel free to utilize the help of Lunchclick's Love Assistant. 

4) Post-date Feedback

• After a date, if you feel like the match you met isn't the one for you and you would like to continue your search... Lunchclick can help you fine-tune and optimize the matching algorithm to give you better matches.

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Now, with all that's being said~

 I understand that it can be a little daunting to meet someone randomly and to invest the time and money to date them out. So~ Lunchclick has something AWESOME to help you ease the discomfort of meeting someone new.

500 Free Dates Campaign

That's right~

For the first 1000 users who use the "Propose a Date" feature on the app and go out on a date together, your meal for the date will be sponsored by Lunchclick!

So with one less thing to worry about and with the help of date ideas and places on Lunchclick app, put yourself out there and take that dive~

Lunchclick App can be downloaded from here (iTunes) or here (Google Play) and all you need to do is to sign up, edit your profile and click away~

All the best!

This post has been brought to you by Lunchclick, Singapore's first female-centric dating app.

I've been following Supermodelme Sirens episodes, and during the judging part in one of the episodes Shi bought up something that I could relate to. She mentioned that people in the cyberworld have made comments about her "boyish" build during her pageant period and how it affected her. 

I recall the first time I read a nasty comment made by someone hidden with a nickname, nothing prepared me for the cyberbullying that happened the moment my name and photos are uploaded digitally. 

On and off, ever since I appear online via my pageant or my blog... there have been nasty comments made and to be honest., it hurts no matter what. In fact, I have started noticing a pattern. The comments always link things back to the pageant.

And today, was that one day that it happened again... Initially, the person made a comment asking me if I am going to be a mom soon which is totally acceptable because well, it was very vague. Then, when it appears that I didnt get his/her message... the comments started becoming nastier.

Now, because I am the way I am... I am not offended at all when someone calls me fat.

I take it that I've come a long way from always being picked by the nurses for being too skinny and suspected as anorexic. In fact, I really think it's very funny how this person tries to pick on me and even include the pageant insult in.

Calling me fat does the least damage on me, because I know that I have a healthy body.

Granted, my body would be nicer if I am a little more toned~

But I am healthy and I am comfortable with the way my body (and face) are.

Which lead me to wonder, who else does this person prey on?

And how do people cope with cyberbullying? Should I fight back with nasty comments, be pleasant but stand up for myself or ignore? 

In the end, I choose to go with overcoming hate with love and humor.

This person isn't the only one, there have been a few... but today, this person finally made me realised something as I spent my day doing my work and being all happy from the weekends with the guy who loves me.... that this person has his/her own insecurities and hence, he/she is seeking for some sort of strength from demeaning others.

So, I am sharing my story... because if you are being bullied, you are not alone and you don't have to overcome it in silence. If you are the bully, stop and reflect on your actions.

Regardless of who you are, the bullied or the bully:

Recognize your own beauty and flaws. 

Love your imperfection for they are what makes you unique.

And, learn to love a little more.   

And to the person who called me fat,

in all honesty~ I dont know what's your purpose but yes~

I have a chubby face and a flabby tummy, and I am still of a healthy size,

but I can do more to be healthier and toned.

That's a given.